This Post Brought to You by The Letter D

Vitamin D, that is. Not that I have any to spare.

So, like a Dummy I just realized that it's December and I haven't really given y'all any Details on my Disease Developments in, well, a Decidedly (in)Defensible Duration. Duh, Piper.

Okay, enough of that.

In all honesty, though, the letter D seems like an appropriate theme for what I guess is a long overdue health update. I get so excited by all the cool things going on in the CF world sometimes that I sort of forget the original purpose of this blog -- which was, I seem to remember, to share my own journey through CF and transplant and all the cool (and not-so-cool) stuff that goes right along with it. It's a journey, of course, that is far from over.

And as the CF community reels from the loss of yet more CFers (breathe easy, guys) and rejoices in the successful transplant and calls for transplant and other major and minor successes accomplished by so many of you out there, I'm reminded more and more of the value that sometimes comes simply from sharing our stories. These messy tales of hospitals and doctors and needles and pills and fears and triumphs and testing and even just of breathing are the things that bring us together and that set us apart. So with all that said, well, here goes something:

Doctors

I went to a new doctor today. I think she's an endocrinologist by trade, though she's not my endo and she seems to specialize in bone disease. All I really know is that she works at my hospital and is incredibly nice, which made it a whole lot less painful than it should have been for me to drag myself all the way up to 168th street today even though I have to go up there again tomorrow (for those counting, I live somewhere below 14th -- you do the math). I jokingly noted that the last thing I wanted for Christmas this year was another doctor, but frankly I'm okay with it as long as all doctors from now on get to be like this one. I had a little bit of an ordeal when I first arrived at the hospital, but after that (which she had nothing to do with, by the way) and the inevitable waiting, she turned out to be pleasant, easy to talk to, knowledgeable about CF, and generally worth the extra effort.

Vitamin D

She also told me what I already knew, which is that my Vit D is low. I knew that because that's why my transplant doctor referred me to her in the first place. What I didn't really know, however, was that my level is apparently 3 (or was, as of my last bloodwork) -- nor did I know that "normal range" on that is 30-75. Yeah, as in 10-25 times my level. Nice.

My understanding is that low vitamin D is linked to all sorts of nasty problems, not the least of which is rejection of the lungs. I don't want that. So needless to say we're moving forward with a couple of treatment options, such as increasing my already high supplemental dose of oral vit D. That's just more pills, so I can handle that. We're also doing some extra lab tests, including blood tests and the less pleasant urine collection test. I would say yuck right now, except that's still a preferable option to rejection and/or bone density loss. Also rickets. Urine is definitely preferable to rickets. So yeah, that's all on tap for the upcoming holiday season, along with follow-up appts and all that jazz.

I'm scheduled for an appointment at my transplant clinic tomorrow as well. Between that visit, today's adventures, blood labs tomorrow, the less pleasant test, and whatever new hoops they can think of for me to jump through, I'm pretty sure I'll survive VitaGate 2011. Here's hoping, anyway.

Demonstrations

The more exciting part of the appt came when she asked me to stand up, shut my eyes, and perform circus tricks. Well, sort of. I got to stand, shut my eyes, hop on one foot, and the like. Apparently this was to check my balance, but regardless of its possible diagnostic value it was by far the most challenged I've felt in a doctor's office for a while. And, while I thankfully remembered to point out a foot injury prior to my showstopping performance (that's its own story, believe me), I somehow failed to mention that I have minor balance issues left over from my tenure as a frequent IV drug junkie. So when she asked me to stand on one foot, I didn't think it was the right moment to make excuses, and I just decided to suck it up and stay silent. 30 years of tobra use says that's not a good idea, folks. Needless to say, I will not be quitting my day job for a career as a tightrope walker anytime soon.

Which is helpful, I guess, seeing as I have none to quit.

Donors

The best thing about today, though? Definitely the moment when I realized that Donor Bob and I have been together for exactly 1 1/2 years on the dot. Delightful. And let me be clear that coming to said realization was worth all the new doctors and low vitamin levels and weird acrobatics in the entire world. I'm so thrilled to be still living, still breathing, and still hopping (sort of) with these lungs that I sometimes feel like I could conquer the world if I had to.

Or, at the very least, the world that is mine -- Doctors, Vitamin D, Donors, and all.

**Blogger Challenge: Emily's Entourage**

You know how every so often you come across someone who is smart, kind, loving, beautiful, and 100% devoted to making a difference?

A few weeks ago one of my good friends and fellow CFers, Emily, contacted me with an idea and a vision. Apparently some of her close friends and family had recently participated in a stair climb for the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation, and (as so often happens when we climb to new heights together for a cause we believe in) they had left the event feeling inspired, energized, and ready to do more. And that "more" in their case came in the form of a video, spearheaded by Emily's brother, that was designed to make something happen for people with cystic fibrosis.

When I first spoke with Em I was impressed by her commitment (she and her friends had already filmed the video and were working on a website) and by her drive to make a something happen in the CF world. "Wow," I remember thinking to myself, "this girl is talented and eager to fundraise. Awesome." Before she even had two words out of her mouth I was plotting ways to leverage her connections to bring us one step closer to that cure.

But when I sat down to actually view her video -- with her still patiently waiting on the other line, no less -- I found myself actually left speechless. Far from simply asking for donations from her viewers, I realized, this girl was asking for participation. She was asking for each person who saw the video and felt connected to her message to donate what they could and then to pass it on. To share the vision. To advocate for themselves, for their children, for their siblings, for their friends, and for everyone else with cystic fibrosis. She was asking, in other words, for more than money -- what she wanted was a movement.

And so, in the spirit of Emily's vision and the power of her devoted "entourage", I am asking each of you to take her challenge.

Please everyone, take a moment to view this video (and have a box of tissues ready when you do so, because you'll need them!). Take a second to contemplate all the love and energy that is reflected back on you from the screen. Remember, if you can, that this is a video put together not by workers in an office or by someone hired to do it, but by a wonderful and hugely inspiring woman, graduate student, employee, daughter, sister, friend, and activist who actually needs this cure. Then think about what it's asking for -- a couple dollars, a couple seconds of your time, a couple words for you to spread the message to your friends that this is a cause that can't wait any longer -- and see if you can really find in your heart a good excuse not to make that small request happen.

Yeah, I couldn't find one either.

So with all respect, love, and faith in the unbelievable power of this community, I'm officially declaring this to be the latest and possibly greatest "Matter of Life and Breath Blogger Challenge: Emily's Entourage Edition." Here are your official rules for participation:

1) View Emily's amazing video here, then consider making a donation of your own or "liking" her page on FB (neither is required, but both are encouraged!).
2) Create your own blog post, FB status update, or other form of social networking tool (letter, email, whatever). In the body of the message, place a small paragraph of why YOU fight for a cure for cystic fibrosis and why this cause matters to YOU. This can be your CF story, your wish for the holidays, your version of community -- whatever.
3) Link to Emily's Entourage Website and encourage your own readers to take up the challenge.
4) Comment back here with a link to your blog a message about how you shared this vision for an automatic entry into a drawing for a very special CF/transplant-awareness prize package, including gifts from iheartguts.com, apparel, and other fun goodies!
5) Re-post these rules on your own page.

Drawing will be held on Dec. 16 (2 weeks from today!).

**As always, you do NOT need to link back to my blog on your site. However, only those whole leave a comment on this post will be entered into the drawing for the prize. Non-CFers and community members of all genders, ages, sizes, and disease status absolutely encouraged to participate.**

The Big 3-"Oh! What a Ride!"

On the eve of my thirtieth birthday . . .

To My Family:

As an English major, a sometimes speaker, and a sort of writer, I'd like to believe that there are words for every experience, and for every emotion. What can I say to all you then but this: thank you, ever and always, for proving me wrong. Some things -- some people -- are quite simply beyond all words.

All of you are, individually and collectively, the most amazing, most inspiring, wisest, kindest, and funniest people I know. Thank you for the jokes that you have told, the strength that you have shown, and the love that you have given so freely and unconditionally. When asked recently what small advice I could offer to a new family struggling to raise a child with CF, I replied with the simple truth that I have learned from a lifetime spent watching all of you: that if we can all be proud of one another in our successes, and still manage to believe in each other in our failures, then we can move mountains -- even if it isn't always easy.

Most of all, thank you for making each and every day for the past three decades a gift and a privilege and a life worth fighting for. You taught me to to wonder, to ask, to explore, and to act. And then you taught me how to do it in style.

I admire you.
I love you.

I breathe you.

To My Friends:

A very smart guy once told me that, if given the choice, he'd rather collect friends than years in his lifetime. And as I approach thirty years of those wonderful, magical things called friendships, I think I'm finally able to appreciate what he meant. Because years themselves in exclusivity are hardly worth noticing. It's the people you meet in the minutes and the hours -- the ones who help you fill the days -- that truly matter.

Each and every one of you, whether you've been a part of my life for twenty-plus years or twenty-plus minutes, is a reason to smile. I'm so beyond grateful for the privilege of meeting y'all, for the chance to share in everything from late-night sleepovers to college-age drama to present-day, well . . . adventures.

It's been a hell of a ride so far, guys, and all the more so for having you each along for it. For all the extra years in my life now, however long that might be, I'm most excited for the chance to keep on sharing them with you.

To My Doctors, Past and Present:

I'm not quite sure how to go about thanking a group with which I've had such a complicated relationship. We've certainly been through a lot together, after all. Like a good made-for-TV movie, y'all have made me laugh, you've made me cry, you've made me roll my eyes, and you've made me want to simply walk away. Most importantly though, you've been the reason, more than anything, that I am able to believe in happily ever after. So here it is, after thirty years of sarcasm, challenge, and maybe just a hint of well-deserved teasing: thank you.

Thank you for the procedures and the medicines and the appointments that I never really wanted to go to until I needed them, and then they couldn't happen fast enough. Thanks for being patient with a sometimes impatient patient who admittedly hates to go in-patient. Thanks for talking to me and, even more so, for listening to me. Thanks for giving the best advice you knew to give, even when I didn't want to hear it. Thanks for not believing my bullshit. Thanks more than anything for always believing my truth. Thanks for admitting when you've been wrong and thanks for never rubbing it in my face when I was. Thanks for locking me up, for letting me go, and thanks, most of all, for never losing sight of my humanity -- or for allowing me to lose sight of myself.

Thank you, in short, for everything.

To The CFF:

Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. No, seriously guys: THANK YOU.

And last but not least . . .

To My Beloved Donor Bob:

So here we are about to turn thirty, dude. It's weird enough to do it once, so I can't imagine what it must be like to do it twice. But then again, you've always seemed to me to be exceptional. And believe me, I don't say that often about someone whom, when truth be told, I've never even met.

I think it was Aristotle who once said that true friendship is a single soul in two bodies. A single mind inhabiting two lives. It's easy to see why he said this -- the deep bond that comes from shared purpose, shared experience, and shared emotion across two lives and two existences is, without a doubt, a special thing. And finding other people with whom to share your life is, undeniably, an act worthy of even the most flowery language and classical, philosophical cliches.

But what about two entirely separate souls who meet somehow, through fate or God or just the sheer force of human kindness (to the extent we believe, of course, that those are separate things at all), and merge together to support one body? What of the moment when two purposes, two sets of experiences, two lifetime's worth of emotions, meet to engage in the single bodily act of existence -- to continue one life through the graciousness of another? What then, Aristotle? What's your fancy Greek metaphor for THAT awesomeness, huh?

Donor Bob, we may never meet in the traditional sense -- may never share a laugh or a handshake or even just a casual passing smile on the street -- but I promise from here on out to share my life, my body, and my existence with you, just as you have shared so willingly with me. I promise to think on you often, to live by your example of kindness (especially to strangers, which is always harder), and to laugh as much as I can for both of us. I promise to always be grateful for your gift without forgetting that I was, am, and will always be, a life worth saving. I promise to relax into our shared complexity as much as possible, and to spend as much time as I can in living, and not just in existing. You are not my soul, you are not my body, but you are, and always will be, my friend.

With love, thanks, and million moments left to go for all of you, beautiful people.

xoxo,
Piper

The Puzzle People

Okay, before I get started here today, I want to make a very special introduction. This, beautiful breathheads, is my friend Allison. I'm sure some of you already know her, and for those who don't (yet), Allison is the gorgeous woman I wrote about a few months back when we discovered she was in need of a new kidney thanks to the anti-rejection meds she's been taking since her double-lung transplant. Several of you stepped up in a way that was nothing short of breathtaking and offered to get tested. Well, I'm delighted to announce that Ms. Allison has found her donor and is now chronicling the story of her journey to transplant #2 on her wonderful blog: "Life, Coffee, and Second Hand Organs." Please check it out and send her light on this fabulous new adventure. As I pointed out to her, she's well on her way to being like 1/3 of the way CF free: now she just needs a liver, pancreas, sinus, trachea, and intestinal transplant and we'll be good to go. Any offers?

Good luck, Alli-Cat. Your friends, and especially your "cysters", are cheering you on every second. And a huge shout out as well to your gorgeous friend and donor. We could not be more grateful.

For those of you who wrote in asking, no, needing a second organ isn't uncommon in CF transplants. Other than a lung retransplant as treatment for chronic rejection, kidneys seem to be at the top of the list when it comes to second "second chances." This is because the drugs taken for the original transplant are super hard on the kidneys, particularly prograf. Most people with lung transplants take two anti-rejection drugs: prograf and something else. The "something else" varies quite a bit, but the prograf is almost universal. And because lungs have a higher rate of rejection than other organs, we take quite a lot of the stuff. Add to that the fact that many post-transplant patients (particularly CFers, who still harbor infections and other grossness in our sinuses and the rest of our bodies) spend at least some of their life after surgery on heavy-duty IV antibiotics that can also be rough on the kidneys, and you're well on your way to understanding why this isn't exactly a strange situation. Some CFers and transplantees, of course, can also require other "second" organs. My friends Patti, Gary, and Laura have all had double-lung/liver transplants because of CF, while other diseases require heart/lung transplants. There's even extreme cases like this amazing woman, who is pretty much a walking testament to organ donation at this point.

For me, I think the further I get down this crazy journey with borrowed organs, the more in awe I become of the whole process. I remember when my pediatric CF doc first sat me down and told me that "every person with CF will eventually need a lung transplant." I thought he was nutso, frankly -- not because I didn't believe him that all people with CF would eventually reach end-stage, but because I just couldn't imagine the prospect of going to sleep and waking up with a my chest. My initial response was something along the lines of "hey, this isn't Frankenstein, dude. People don't just go 'til they're worn out and then replace the parts, do they?" And for years that's what transplant remained for me: this somewhat obscure process that all my doctors were talking about, but that seemed way too science-fictiony for me to ever imagine actually happening.

When I went on the list, of course, that attitude started changing. For one thing, that was when I started meeting other post-transplantees in earnest. Because confession time: up until about 2007, I was very active in the CF world from the standpoint of speaking for the CFF, participating in studies, and fundraising. I was far less active, however, in the actual CF community, mostly because I didn't really see how we could help each other. In an ironic way, transplant not only gave me the actual gift of life in the literal sense, but it also gave me a much deeper understanding of the more indirect gifts of living that we all give each other every day. It brought me closer to a community of people that I cherish and value now beyond all reason, it bound my pre-existing community of family and friends even tighter together, and it offered me a glimpse into the way one soul (or a whole collection of souls, in some cases) can choose to save another simply by making a choice and taking an action -- even if you never get to actually meet the person (or people) you're saving.

I'm approaching 30 now and (thankfully) still on my first second set of organs. I hope to keep Bob around for a very long time, and I also hope to keep it to just the two of us for as long as possible. But even as I write those words and give a little chuckle, I know I'm blessed to be a part of what just might be the world's largest "truth is stranger than science fiction" novel ever written. All of the recipients, the donors, the will-be donors, the family and friends who have given life through their grief, and all those who have seen a loved one saved by a miracle are testaments (and in my case, a living, BREATHING testament) to the power of human action and the amazing results that can grow out of one simple choice to make a difference. Better yet, we are proof positive of the fact that humans are humans; that at the end of the day we are all unique, all individuals, and -- at least in some ways -- all interchangeable. I once heard us called "the puzzle people" somewhere, and I loved it. Because what better way to show how we all fit together, even as we all have our own place?

Congratulations, Allison! I'm looking forward to knowing the new parts of you that will emerge from this latest adventure, and to (re)discovering the you we've always loved.

And to her wonderful donor: our gratitude is beyond words. You are quite literally a part of us now, and we couldn't be happier. Thank you so much for helping to complete our beautiful puzzle.

What Are You Reading?

Because I've been reading a LOT of really great stuff lately. Stuff like, oh, this for example:

Not Just a Cheerleader: Foundation Helped Drive Cystic-Fibrosis Research

and this:

Vertex Submits Application for Priority Review

or even this:

New Drug Targets Cystic Fibrosis

Talk about a fun mid-semester reading list, right?

As most of you already know, Vertex Pharmaceuticals announced a couple of days ago that it was submitting its new drug Kalydeco (formally known as VX-770, though I still think they should have gone with Em Schaller's and my suggestion of "Blue Lightening") to the FDA for priority review and approval in the treatment of cystic fibrosis patients with the G551D mutation. In English, this means that Vertex, a large pharma company that has been partnering with the CFF for several years on the development of this and other CF drugs, has asked the FDA to approve a new drug that targets the actual defect of this disease for about 5% of CF patients. The 5% in question all have copies of a specific gene mutation that causes a channel blockage in the CFTR process. This drug opens the channel, and that is awesome.

What's even more awesome, though, is that this drug might actually have a wider application than 5%. Right now we KNOW from clinical trials that Kalydeco is effective at helping folks with this specific mutation. What we don't know yet, and what the CFF and Vertex are now working tirelessly to find out, is whether the drug will work for other patients with similar mutations (commonly referred to as "class 3" mutations), whether the drug may be useful in the treatment of so-called "milder" CFTR mutations ("class 4" and "class 5" mutations), and whether the drug might be able to be used in combination with other drugs to treat more common mutations (including DF508, the most common CFTR defect and one that is officially considered a "class 2" mutation). We don't know this stuff yet, but the folks behind this new drug are already on it, and new trials are launching to figure out the answers.

So, you know, if you have CF and feel like being part of something truly magical (and maybe giving your lung function a serious boost in the process!), check out the CFF website to see if there are any relevant trials near your clinic: Find a Trial.

Because this stuff can't happen without us, guys. I promise.

I have to say that it's fascinating to me whenever "my" disease starts appearing everywhere in the media. As a CFer, I've gotten pretty used to being somewhat under the radar when it comes to common medical knowledge. I never tell anyone I have CF without having my explanation of the disease ready, and I'm certainly not prepared to tell someone and have them respond with "ooooh, yeah, I read about that the other day in 'The Cape Cod Times.'" It's a new experience for me and, I'm not going to lie, at least a little unsettling. But it's also revolutionary, in many ways, because what this means is that the world is taking notice of us: of a (relatively) tiny little orphan genetic disease that affects about 70,000 people worldwide, many of whom will die fairly young. And the only reason people would do that, guys, is that we are creating miracles. We are giving them something to believe in, to hope for, and to strive toward. Or, to put it another way, we are giving them answers to questions they never even knew they had.

Take this article for example: Smoker's Lungs Similar to Those of Cystic Fibrosis Patients. This made its way around FB the other day and I snatched it off my friend Amy's profile. The interesting thing here isn't really that smoking makes your lungs suck (we knew that, right?), but more that smoking makes your lungs suck and CF research can help. Recently CF has been all over the place because the stuff we're doing -- the money we raise and the research it supports and the science that creates -- has implications for all sorts of disease out there. Genetic ones, yes, of course, because NO ONE has EVER cured a genetic disease before, and we are so so so close to being the first. But other diseases as well, because just as I now know several non-CFers who inhale Tobi and use the Vest on a regular basis, it's clear to all of us at this point that pushing the envelope on CF treatment to the extent we are all doing, every single day, is going to change the way people think about medical research. Period. And that, quite frankly, is the sort of news I absolutely love to read, and the sort of thing that makes me -- dare I even say it? -- super proud to have CF and to be a part of this community.

So we might be a super small group of people with a super weird set of genes that is super easy for the rest of the world to ignore, most of the time. But I'm happy to say that we're also super dedicated, because we get stuff done. We're super persistent, because we don't take no for an answer -- whether that no comes from a set of doctors who said we'd never live to graduate high school or a set of pharma companies who said we'd never be profitable. We're super loud, because we know that it's not so much the size of your crowd as it is the strength of your voice and the truth of your message. And we're super close, because let me tell you guys: it's working. And if you ask me how I know that now, well, I've got a seriously good answer.

I read it in the paper.

Ask Not What a Cure Can Do For You

I like to come on here every once and a while and brag about my family. This is, of course, partly because my entire family is pretty much awesome, and I love them.

The other reason I like to brag, though, is a little more selfish. You see, I happen to have a family that is 100% committed to combating, controlling, and yes, to eventually curing cystic fibrosis. Not only do these wonderful folks donate money any time they can to this cause and support me through thick and thin with the disease, but they also serve as volunteers with the CFF, they get out and walk to raise awareness, they spread hope and prayers and love to just about everyone in their communities (but also to families dealing with CF), they serve on boards and chair committees, and perhaps most importantly: they continue to ask.

My father likes to say that "making the ask" is the most important part of curing this disease. Recently I heard him speak at the CFF's Greater New York Chapter Bi-Annual Scientific Update. This was a wonderful event put on by the amazing staff at the GNY Chapter to help answer questions about the sometimes crazy weird science that accompanies this disease we all consider to be a part of daily life. The program featured CFF Vice-President for Clinical Affairs, Dr. Bruce Marshall, and Emily Schaller (founder of the awesome Rock CF Foundation), both of whom gave testimony to the amazing new class of drugs out there that will treat the underlying defect of cystic fibrosis -- that amazing triple-punch combo of Ataluran (nonsense mutations), VX-770 (currently for G551D, though may have wider use), and VX-809 (DF508); and the new drugs like VX-661 that are just entering development.

These are awesome new drugs guys, and they work. We know that. We know that they do at least some of what they are supposed to do. We know that we are closer than ever to figuring how they work best, who they work for, and what might work better down the line. To that end, the CFF continues to do studies, pledge money, and move forward in solving this equation that we worked so hard to figure out in the first place.

I say "we" there because this really has been a collective effort. 56 years ago when a group of CF parents and loved ones came together to say they'd had enough of their children's fatal disease being ignored or unfunded, one might have said that it was them against the world. As recently as the early 1980s, the CFF had a working budget of about $1 million dollars to wipe out one of the most deadly and most common genetic illnesses in the US. The numbers have grown quite a bit since then (and, not coincidentally, so has the science and the treatments and the life expectancy), but one thing hasn't changed at all: this is still a community-based effort -- OUR effort, guys -- that relies 100% on donor funding.

So WE are super close, but WE'RE not really there yet. There's a lot of stuff to be done, including studies that take a lot of money and a lot of help. And that guys, is where WE get to come in again. Because something my dad said in his speech the other night really stuck with me, and I think it's worth sharing here:

"We are no longer looking to invent the lightbulb or to find the light at the end of the tunnel. We've done that. All we need now is money to fuel our lamp. And we have to realize that in our future either one of two things is going to happen:

Either we will have to end each day knowing that someone out there is saying goodnight and goodbye to a child, a sibling, a loved one, or a friend with this disease;

Or together, WE can say goodnight, goodbye, and GOOD RIDDANCE to cystic fibrosis."

I think right then was the moment I decided to stop asking what a cure could do for me. Instead, to paraphrase our late President John F. Kennedy, I think it's time we start seriously asking ourselves what WE can do for a cure. And hey, while you're asking yourself, why not ask a couple of friends as well? And why not ask them to ask a couple of others? Because I'm pretty sure most of you guys out there have friends and loved ones, and I'm pretty sure most of them do too. And I'm sure you get where I'm going with this, because while no gift is ever too small to accept, it is equally true that no gift should ever be big enough to make us stop asking until this disease is cured.

So what I'm asking you guys to do is this:

Get involved in your own health and your own cure. Different people are going to do this in different ways, obviously, but I think the main message is that we should not wait to see what other people, other groups, and other treatments are going to do for us. WE need to be the ones out there spreading this awareness. WE need to take the information about our disease to the next level if it's not good enough yet (and here's a hint, it's not). WE need to seek out and participate in these studies as much as possible. WE need to keep on it and get out there. WE need to give whatever we can in the form of time, energy, money, space, whatever to get this job done. There's no one specific action that I'm asking you guys to take here. I know circumstances vary. But I am asking -- pleading, beseeching, begging -- that each and every one of you take a second (or maybe even a blog?) and try to figure out a way that you personally can be more involved in your own community and in the fight(s) for the cause(s) you believe in.

Because WE as CFers, as people, as a world, simply cannot wait for the cures that will save us.

WE have to be them.

Chaos Theory

If you had asked me when I was ten years old where I would end up at almost 30 and what I would be doing, I probably would not have guessed correctly. And no, I don't just mean the fact that I am awake in the pre-dawn hours of a West Village morning thanks to a surprisingly effective combo of insomnia and noise from the nearby bar, though I probably wouldn't have seen that one coming either. What I do mean is that I probably wouldn't have counted on living in New York City, at sitting here late at night with my adult thoughts and a really cute little mutt curled up by my feet and another beautiful soul's former lungs in my body.

You know, all the normal stuff like that.

My family spent almost every Thanksgiving holiday when I was growing up on a special vacation to New York City. We would stay in the same apartment on the Upper East Side, eat Thanksgiving dinner at the Waldorf Astoria, and see a ton of family-friendly Broadway musicals (Cats! Phantom! Les Mis! Cats again!). We would wander through the streets and look at the windows in Saks and the lights on 5th Avenue and we would brave the 6am cold to get awesome "seats" in the front row of a New York sidewalk curb for the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade. We would eat hot dogs and bagels, we would ride carriages in Central Park, and we would all smile through the bitter cold, because I'm here to say right now that anyone who ever tells you that Colorado is a cold state has never, ever lived in the northeast. And, of course, we would always make our way eventually into the hallowed halls of FAO Schwartz toy store, which as far as I could see was pretty much heaven -- from the huge stuffed animal section right down to the never-ending musical strains of the store's theme song: "Welcome to our world of toys!"

Heaven, no joke.

What was NOT heaven, however, was the sheer size and chaos of the city itself, or at least not from my slightly limited perspective. My Colorado mountain girl self thought the Big Apple was pretty much the definition of scary from day one. Case in point, I kept the apartment's address written on a business card and firmly shoved in my pocket with a ten dollar bill as insurance against the terrifying fate of being alone in this super crowded place with the crazy yellow cars and the buildings that seemed to me just as high as the peaks that surrounded my hometown. I always loved the lights and the colors and the food and the musicals; I just wasn't sure about the, well, about the flat-out extremeness of the place, to be honest. I may have been a child with a whole lot of spirit according to my report cards (I always took it as a compliment), but I was also a fan of at least some sort of security and routine.

(And as an aside here, my wonderful sister attempted to solve this problem by telling me I had a special pigeon who followed me in every major city to make sure I was okay. If pushed, she would acknowledge that this particular pigeon was recognizable by its distinctive grey body and somewhat iridescent green markings, and the fact that it had wings and was always the pigeon closest to me, obviously. I was 100% convinced she was telling the truth.)

Fast forward give or take 22 years. I live in New York, more or less alone (sorry, Sampson), and I am happy. I am happy to be here. I am happy and proud to call such a chaotic mass of stunning humanity my home. And I am happy beyond all reason when I am walking the streets of this wonderful place. Particularly alone. Particularly when it's most alive all around me. Particularly, oddly enough, when it is at its most overwhelming and, yes, even a little bit scary.

Of course, when I say that I am happy, I don't mean that my life here is totally free from worry or stress. I don't mean an existence without problems, or without concerns, or without anxiety. I don't mean that it's always easy to live in this place that I've come to love for its complexity with this body that I've learned to adore for the exact same reason. I don't mean happy in the way I might mean it, for example, if we could suddenly imagine a life or a world without things like cystic fibrosis or pain or fear or any of the other things that threaten to hold us back on a daily basis. In fact, just thinking about that sort of stuff can sometimes threaten to send me off in a tailspin, whirling my way straight back to that somewhat timid little girl with the address in her pocket. Because the craziness and the uncertainty are all still out there, right? They never really go away, I guess. Not for me, and probably not for any of us, if we're really being honest.

And yet I will say it again: I am, in fact, happy. Like, really happy even. I am the kind of happy that comes from having at least one moment every single day of raw, unadulterated joy. I am skip down the street like a 5-year-old kind of happy. Dance with the dog in the living room to Belle and Sebastian kind of happy. Laugh at absolutely nothing just because the whole wide world seems funny kind of happy. Oh, yeah, and "take-all-my-meds-and-go-to-all-my-appointments-or-blood-draws-or-whatever-and-smile-because-when-all-this-is-over-I'm-going-to-be-walking-back-out-into-the-best-most-crazy-beautiful-amazing-existence-any-girl-could-ever-ask-for" kind of happy.

Yep, that kind.

The difference now, I guess, is that even though my life might still be a whirling, chaotic, overcrowded ride sometimes, I think I'm coming to a point where I can not just accept that movement, but maybe even learn to embrace it. I think at some point in my life with CF I came to realize that nothing is ever guaranteed, but that the fact of the matter is that even the stomach-dropping sense of being off balance every once and a while can ultimately make me a lot more steady on my own two feet. And even if the prospect of being alone in a strange city, in an even stranger body, with a stranger's lungs and a crazy, beautiful, strange world out there all around me might sometimes be the most terrifying prospect imaginable, it is also, sometimes, the greatest blessing I could ever imagine. It's the sort of realization that can bring me back to myself amongst the madness, and back to the beauty that seems to go hand-in-hand with an existence that is, in many ways, well beyond my (or any of our) control -- and that is undeniably worth it, in every sense.

Or maybe it's that very chaos itself that makes this once so-very-scary destination also the place where I now feel the most at home.